Wednesday, April 30, 2008
TITLE:HOUse Problem????
PLayed at fico last friday with the guys n after the game,me ad some of the guys sat outside at the carpark and talked about getting our own place after getting married..Feroz didnt get the house he wanted and RJ on the other hand, is in a dilemma on whose house to stay after married..
One think that Feroz highlighted is the friction btwn wife and mother in law that always happens or exist..RJ talked about how sentitive the matter of choosing whose side to stay with..if he chose side A, then side B would be offended n vice versa...
I have to agree on the guys opinion..i seen it with my sis who said that she felt pressurised if she stays at her in law place..i guess the fact of expectations of the mother in law from the daughter in law is the main factor why most couple would
choose their own place.MOst daughter in law would be expected to do the chores n etc etc arnd the house of their mother in law..its that expectation thing that makes it difficult..trust me,it hard to live up to ppls expectation..what more a moms expectation..
That got me to think,when i get married..whats the best thing to do for me?i thought about it hard n i still have to agree withthe fact that i would rather hve my own place with my dear..there,in our own place,we can do anything we want to w/o worrying being judge n all dat..we can mess the house if we want to, not wash the dishes if we are tired n even pile the laundry and wash it when we are free.. She on the other hand wouldnt have to live up to any expectations and free from the pressure usually posed by mother in laws..thats my stand to this matter..furtermore, she can do up the place according to her style.
but should things dont realie go the way we planned n we have to stay at either place, i wouldnt mind staying at her place longer..i supposed guys generally wont have much problem with their in laws?n gurls would be more comfortable in their own place plus they are more comfy $with their own family..
like what Feroz and RJ said, whatever we do after married, we always have to try and take care the feelings of both sides..in laws plus our wife n i agree to that..
anyway,after thinkin and analysing evrything, i still would opt to have my own place. Heard that its realie realie hard. FEroz, RJ,Dave and atul did talk about how hard it is to get a place either by walk in or balloting in the HDB. Well have to start early on that.so been going to the HDB website to just take a look.
ACtually, im glad that the guys talked about it the other day.it gives an in sight of whats to come when you are married and how to plan things n all that. LIke how they said, you wont know how it feels until you go thru it. IF in the past we were talkin about homeworks, mcm mane nak copy in test...now..its different.how we all grew up...haha.
anyway, i hope the best for evryone in their journey in life. As a frd and knowing the guyd for 14 yrs plus, im glad that we are all stil together and talks about things.
to you guys: Hope this frdship will never end. Thanks for being my bros.
to my dear: i been thinkin a lot and we will get our own place.I think its the best for us.i love you.
and to other: well, enjoy the day when u are reading this.hope it gave some useful insights.
Take care ya all.
Space out,
me
Rest My CaSe at 12:09 PM
